Wednesday, September 28, 2016

How Does Ejaculation Work / Cum Pain

The fact that readers are asking more questions says something about their trust in the things I post. I do research on any given subject before I write anything about it.
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Not so for other popular blogs. One in particular - I refuse to name names - is an almost daily offender in delivering inaccurate information. Sometimes it's out and out made-up bullshit. He dupes people into thinking he knows what he's talking about by using labels like "bulbocavernosus muscles."  The term is bulbospongiosis, the muscle of the perineum covering the bulb (or very root) of the penis. It is this muscle we exercise with Kegels to strengthen erectionsUnfortunately thousands of men and women read his blog on a daily basis and are duped into believing what he writes is accurate.
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One such recent instance is "pre-ejaculation chamber" at the base of the penile shaft that "fills with semen until it can't hold any more," and triggers "the point of no return and ejaculation." There's no such thing, folks; it's a piece of male anatomy he invented.  Here's the truth:

"The journey begins in the ejaculatory ducts, located within the prostate gland. This location is where semen collects during sexual activity. When your arousal reaches its highest level, your body experiences a spinal reflex. [Note: it has nothing to do with the amount of semen collected.] This reflex causes spasms throughout the muscles in your prostate, urethra and penis, and these spasms propel the semen outward."
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If I've attached the correct one, here's a very short clip of how ejaculation works.


Another question from one of his followers about painful, burning sensations when he cums, states he's been tested and is clear of any STD, and asks if this is normal or if it's "just him."
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The blogger fires back glibly, telling the reader it's not normal so it must be him, as if it's not a serious question. It is. Ruling out any STD, it could be any number of medical issues: Urethritis (inflammation of the urethra); Prostatitis (inflammation of the prostate (bacterial, chronic, or asymptomatic); Orchitis, inflammation of one or both testicles, vas deferens, seminal vesicles; Blockage, a blockage anywhere within the route of seminal travel; Prostate Cancer; an allergic reaction to spermicides or contraceptive jellies or creams. It could even be a reaction to antidepressant medication.
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If you notice any pain, or a burning sensation when you pee
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or when you cum
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or even after you cum
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you need to go see a doctor.
And, please, be aware that the internet contains a lot of misinformation.
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Thanks for allowing me to get that off my chest.



Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Passed Out While Pissing

It's such a common, normal thing we all do, right? Waking in the middle of the night to take a piss,
He woke, quite groggy, from a deep sleep needing to pee. As explained to his dad: he walked to the bathroom, his boner dissipated (though it took some prodding to get his son to admit he had a boner).
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He stood in front of the toilet and pissed...
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passed out and hit the floor like a ton of bricks, breaking his two front teeth and lower jaw, and gashing his right cheek and forehead.
Medical sites, like Mayo Clinic, say it's uncommon and happens mostly to older guys. It's a sudden drop in blood pressure. The medical term is micturition syncope.The exact cause isn't really known, but it's thought to be the vasodilation (opening) of the blood vessels when standing and urinating
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which results in a sudden loss in blood pressure. Though the medical community says it's uncommon, I believe it happens more than they realize. It's happened to me, my father-in-law, and own father and brother. Though the medical community also says it happens mostly to older guys, it has happened to my brother-in-law, and one of my nephews. All resulting in nothing more than a few bruises and, in my own case, an elbow busted a hole in the drywall next to the toilet. But, in the case I cited above, this was the late-teen son of one of my wife's co-workers.

There can be underlying causes; dehydration, excessive alcohol, hunger, fatigue, use of alpha blockers for BPH (enlarged prostate) which is why it happens mostly to older men), or other underlying medical conditions.

Two things you can do to avoid injury: 1. Don't get out of bed too fast; sit on the side for a minute or so and move your legs to get the blood pumping through your body. 2. In the middle of the night, sit down to pee.
When waking up needing to pee? Sit!
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The number of issues we solely face as men are numerous. If we'd discuss them we could save others a lot of trouble and pain. Put away the embarrassment of your cock.
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Talk with your buddies when you hear about something like this - or if something happens to you. Spread important information.

Monday, September 26, 2016

Really Good Advice

So many wonderful comments and email messages to help this guy through his rough patch with his friend. In my immediate response, I told him I would do a post and suggested he read the responses you, my Faithful Readers, would supply.
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I hope he follows the really good advice you provided. One common theme was that his friend might be suffering from enormous guilt, feeling as if the activity was a betrayal of his wife.

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In the message, it didn't appear as though the writer hoped for a continuation of sexual contact; just a return to the sincere friendship.
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I have no doubt that it will, that their relationship will survive this episode. It will just take time, and perhaps some outings with a group of mutual friends.
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Outings where there is nothing to fear.
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This blog (I hope) provides a means of sharing information with one another, helping one another.
Thank you to everyone who responded.

Friday, September 23, 2016

How Can I Get My Friend Back?

I love getting comments from readers. I know lots of straight guys follow and read, but it's a rare occasion when one leaves a comment. Straight dudes: I really appreciate hearing from you because you confirm many of the things I've written about when it comes to enjoying some buddy activity. Like the one who left a comment last week saying how common it is for guys at his gym to jack off together in the showers and saunas.
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But, then I get an email from a straight dude and I'm at a loss as to how to answer him. Maybe you, my Faithful Readers, can help.

"So, my best buddy and I met in college. We did a lot of stroking together back then. We served as Best Man at each other’s weddings and of course the mutual masturbation stopped. Though I’ll admit to jacking off with other guys at the gym, and I know my buddy has too. But we didn’t get together in that way since our marriages.
I’ve been divorced for close to five years now and during that time always wanted to ask him if he’d be willing to pick up the college days but I never approached him. His wife passed away recently - quite unexpectedly. Of course, I rushed to be with him and his kids, to offer what comfort I could.
That night after his kids had gone to bed I hugged him as I went to go home. He held onto me so tight I could barely breathe. I rocked him as he sobbed into my shoulder, I whispered how sorry I was, that I loved him and he could count on me for anything he needed. Well, he thanked me, nuzzled and kissed my neck. Before I knew it we were locked in an embrace, and I felt him get hard and press against my leg. Of course, I was hard as a rock, but I was surprised. Because, all the while he’s clinging to me, he’s grinding his crotch against me. Long story, short: it turned into an urgent, passionate, almost desperate session of sex. Right there in the family room. Things we’d never done before, like rubbing our erections together, and sucking one another’s cock. After we both came, he held onto me like his life depended on it.
But here’s the problem. Over the next few days, even though I served as pall bearer at the funeral, he would barely look at me, and spoke maybe 10 words to me. It’s been almost two months and he hasn’t talked to me since. He doesn’t return my calls or text messages. I’m confused and, frankly, heartbroken.
What is his deal? How can I get my friend back?"
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Well, my Faithful Readers,
what advice can you offer?